不庆祝生日的理由_风闻

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Our birthday comes around once a year. Our birthday, that one day usually reminding us of another year gone by. Not all of us are keen on celebrating this so-called ‘special day‘.

我们的生日一年只有一次。我们的生日那一天通常提醒我们又过去了一年。并不是所有人都热衷于庆祝这个所谓的“特别的日子”。

I’m one of these people. Never have been keen on celebrating my birthday. Every year I try to keep this day as quiet as possible, going about the day as per normal and sort of forgetting that it’s my birthday.

我就是其中之一。我从来都不喜欢庆祝我的生日，每年我都尽量让这一天过得安静些，像往常一样过这一天，几乎忘了这一天是我的生日。

It’s not that I have anything against celebrating birthdays. Last year I wrote a post on 7 Unforgettable Ways To Celebrate Your Birthday. I’m all up for celebrating other’s birthdays. Just not mine.

这并不是说我反对庆祝生日。去年我写了一篇关于庆祝生日的7种令人难忘的方式的文章。我完全赞成为别人的生日庆祝，但不是我的。

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A birthday is significant in that it symbolises life: it signifies the day we came to life and became a part of this world. It signifies another year of ups and downs behind us. It’s about celebrating being human, a milestone which some of us are inclined to celebrate. However, some of us have our reasons for keeping our birthday a low-key affair – some reasons personal, some reasons tied to our personality, and some reasons down to what we believe in.

生日的意义在于它象征着生命：它标志着我们来到这个世界中并成为这个世界的一部分的日子。它意味着我们又经历了跌宕起伏的一年。这是成为人类的一个里程碑，我们中的一些人倾向于庆祝。然而，我们中的一些人有自己的理由低调过生日--有些是个人原因，有些与我们的个性有关，还有一些则与我们的信仰有关。

Reasons to not celebrate birthdays

不庆祝生日的理由

1. We don’t want a fuss

1. 我们不想小题大做

Birthdays can be a time where the spotlight is on us. Some of us simply don’t like attention on us. We might be shy. We might have anxiety and birthday surprises might not sit well with us. We could be introverted and birthday attention from a big group might heighten our socialising phobia.

生日是我们最受关注的时刻。但有些人就是不喜欢别人关注自己。我们可能会害羞。我们可能会焦虑，生日惊喜可能会让我们感到不舒服。我们可能性格内向，生日时一大群人的关注可能会加剧我们的社交恐惧症。

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Birthday blues or birthday anxiety disorder can be a very real thing. According to psychologist Debra Kissen, anytime that you are supposed to be happy can be a setup for disappointment; birthdays can be setups for anxiety as there is the pressure to have a memorable birthday in this comparative world.

生日忧郁或生日焦虑可能是非常真实的事情。根据心理学家黛布拉.基森的说法，任何你应该高兴的时候都可能是失望的开始;而生日也可能是焦虑的开始，因为在这个相互比较的世界里，要过一个难忘的生日是有压力的。

As someone with anxiety, birthday surprises don’t make me feel good. Even a I-know-planned-before-hand birthday celebration makes me jittery. The worst is when people sing Happy Birthday to me – these situations I don’t know what to do and feel too embarrassed to smile down at a candle-lit cake. Over the years I’ve gotten better at hanging out with close friends for a meal or catch-up around my birthday; they’d most definitely say, ‘Happy Birthday’ and I go along with it.

作为一个有焦虑症的人，生日的惊喜不会让我感觉很舒服。即使是事先知道的生日庆祝也会让我紧张不安。最糟糕的是当人们给我唱生日歌的时候——这种情况下我不知道该做什么，也不好意思对着烛光蛋糕微笑。这些年来，我越来越擅长在生日那天和亲密的朋友出去吃饭或小聚;他们肯定会说，“生日快乐”，我会顺其自然。

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2. Comparative competition

2. 生日庆祝活动的比较

Following on from the first point, there often is the pressure to make a birthday a fun one. In general, society sees birthdays as good times, a time where we do what we want and get what we want. Have a good celebration one year, there could be the expectation to have an equally enjoyable or lavish one the following year – and all birthday hype can leave one disappointed if birthday plans don’t go according to plan or no one shows up if anyone was invited. 

继第一点，我们通常会有让生日变得更有趣的压力。一般来说，人们将生日视为美好的时光，在这一天里，我们可以做自己想做的事，得到自己想要的东西。如果今年庆祝得很好，可以期待来年有一个同样愉快或奢华的生日庆祝活动——但如果来年的生日庆祝活动没能按原计划进行，或者有人被邀请，但没有出现，所有的生日宣传都会让人失望。

3. Spending money

3. 会花钱

Depending on how we choose to spend our birthday, we might shell out a fair bit for the occasion and feel poorer after that. For instance, we might go all out extravagant and lavish celebrating our birthday: renting a jumping castle, going on a cruise, spending a night at a penthouse suite, going on an all-night pub-hopping bender or all of that. If we have lots of friends, there might be numerous birthday catch-ups and unless our friends pay for our share, this hurts the wallet.

根据我们选择如何度过我们的生日，我们可能会为这个活动掏出相当多的钱，之后会觉得自己变得更穷。例如，我们可能会尽可能奢侈地庆祝我们的生日：租一个跳跃城堡，去坐游轮旅行，在顶层套房里过夜，去酒吧通宵狂欢等等。如果我们有很多朋友，可能会有很多的生日聚会，除非我们的朋友为我们分担一部分，否则这就会伤害我们的钱包。

I’m quite the frugal person and see myself as simple and pretty low maintenance, and don’t like spending unless it’s absolutely necessary. A simple meal out is already a nice treat to me just as hanging out with someone at the shopping mall. 

我是一个非常节俭的人，认为自己很简单，相当低调，除非绝对必要，否则我不喜欢花钱。出去吃顿简单的饭对我来说已经是一种很好的享受，就像和别人在购物中心闲逛一样。

4. Negative experiences

4. 负面经历

For some of us, our past birthdays might have coincided with moments we’d rather forget or a sensitive time. Having a celebratory time let alone putting on a brave face as others sing Happy Birthday to us could be rather inappropriate; sometimes the past hurts too much and is unforgettable. That said, choosing to view birthdays as a positive occasion – another year, still here, much achieved – can be a way of moving on.

对于我们中的一些人来说，过去的生日可能恰逢我们宁愿忘记的时刻或敏感时刻。更不用说在其他人为我们唱生日快乐歌时装出一副勇敢的样子可能是相当别扭的；有时过去太伤人，令人难以忘怀。 也就是说，选择将生日视为一个积极的时刻或许是一种继续前进的方式。又是一年了，我仍然在这里，还取得了很大的成就。