你有真正的朋友吗_风闻

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Michelle Moree

I dont have any friends whether it’s real or not real. But I will say that it takes something for me to call someone a friend. You have to have my phone number and text me and want to hang out with me. No one does in my school except for my sister.

I guess I have a weird personality but I dont understand why no one likes me and doesn’t want to be my friend. People are always so rude to me even though I have barely ever talked to them. I just dont get it because I’m nice to everyone whether I like them or not, even if they’re the “weird" kid.

It’s nice being lonely a lot and I dont have to worry about overlapping plans, but I really would like someone to talk to and to hang our with because it just gets sad after a while.

Let’s just say I cry a lot.

不管是真的还是假的,我没有朋友。但我要说，对我而言称某人为朋友是很重要的一件事。你必须有我的电话号码，发短信给我以及想和我一起出去玩。但除了我妹妹，在我的学校里没有人这样做。

我想我的性格很古怪，但我不明白为什么没有人喜欢我，也不想成为我的朋友。人们对我总是很粗鲁—尽管我几乎没有和他们说话。但是我就是不明白，因为我对每个人都很好—不管我喜欢与否，即使他们是“古怪”的少年。

经常孤独其实挺好，对此我不必担心计划重叠，但我真的很想有人和我聊天，和我们一起玩，因为过了一段孤独地的时间后会很难过。

这么说吧，我经常哭。

Hope Switon

I texted one of my friends to let him know that I’d be baking Christmas cookies the following day, and to ask if he wanted me to make some extra ones for him. He politely accepted, and asked if I needed help with the baking. We spent hours baking together.

I vented to a martial artist friend when I was approached by creeps. He told me that if they got too close for comfort, I should just text him.

I called a friend to ask if he could help me put up a lamp. He collected his tools and spent hours working the faulty electrics to make it work.

I have friends who will let me rant about whatever guy I’m into that week; friends who will pick up the conversation like no time has passed, three months after the last time we spoke; friends who will help when I have a problem I can’t fix alone; friends who will go out of their way to make me happy.

Yes, I have some real friends. Some good ones.

Do you have any real friends?

我给我的一个朋友发了短信，告诉他我第二天要烤圣诞饼干，并问他是否想让我为他多做一些。他礼貌地接受了，并问我烘烤时是否需要他帮忙。我们一起烤了几个小时。

有变态接近我时，我向一个武术家朋友发泄了一通。他告诉我，如果他们离得太近，我应该给他发短信。

我打电话给一个朋友，问他是否能帮我挂一盏灯。他收集了工具，花了几个小时修理有故障的电器并使它工作。

我有一些朋友，他们会让我对我在那一周遇到的任何人大发雷霆；在我们上次交谈三个月后，这些朋友会像什么都没发生过一样继续交谈；当我遇到自己无法解决的问题时，朋友会帮助我；朋友们会不遗余力地让我快乐。

是的，我有一些真正的朋友，一些很好的朋友。

你有真正的朋友吗？

Uday Singh

My first great friend was an academically superb guy, always topping the class in his test scores, always getting high grades. In fact we do talk nowadays, but very rarely, he’s in another country now. But before shifting to another country, there were many opportunities for us to meet or talk on Skype, but he would always have this excuse that he’s playing with his young brother, and he’s busy, etc.. I couldn’t blame him.

I had another friend at my drama class, he was very cool, very funny by personality. We both got along, we liked exploring, acting together. But I after two years I slowly distanced myself away from him because I felt like I could never take him serious, or he wouldn’t take me serious. I had this impression that he liked playing with feelings. Nowadays we don’t talk at all, he has his life going on, I have mine. We don’t HATE each other, no not at all, we always welcome each other! it’s just, life moves on..

我的第一个好朋友是一个学术上非常优秀的人，考试成绩总是全班第一，成绩总是很高。事实上，我们现在有交谈，但很少，他现在在另一个国家。但在转移到另一个国家之前，我们在Skype上有很多机会见面或交谈，但他总是有这样的借口：他在和弟弟玩，他很忙等等，对此我不能责怪他。

我在戏剧课上还有一个朋友，他很酷，性格很有趣。我们俩相处融洽，我们喜欢探索，一起表演。但两年后，我慢慢地与他疏远，因为我觉得我永远不会把他当回事，或者他不会把我当回事。我觉得他喜欢玩弄感情。现在我们根本不说话，他有自己的生活，我有自己的生活。我们不恨对方，一点也不，我们总是互相欢迎！只是，生活还得继续。

Until September 2017, all my teenage hood since the age of 12, I used to be this guy who… had personality problems. I was very possessive, over thoughtful, constantly insecure and very emotional. In other words, I didn’t have a life, I depended my happiness too much on others, especially on this girl I had an infatuation on. I had an infatuation on a girl for 6 years, since the age of 13. My mid teenage hood was the darkest moment of my life so far…

But now, I’m 19 now I’m happy to say that I’m living happy . That girl I had a severe crush on, she’s across the Atlantic ocean from where I am, we don’t have any contact at all. But I just wish she’s happy, and safe, and living pleasant… I don’t know if I love her or not, but I shouldn’t feel hurt. She never made a promise to me, and didn’t have to. She has her life, I have mine.

Since 2017 September, I changed a lot. I become more self-determined, I started going to the gym, and from there my self-confidence sky-rocketed. I feel very strong nowadays. About friendship, I gained a lot of friends because of the decision to change myself.

直到2017年9月，我从12岁起就一直是一个个性有问题的人。我占有欲很强，过度深思熟虑， 常感不安，情绪很激动。换句话说，我没有自己的生活，我的幸福太依赖别人了，尤其是这个我迷恋的女孩。我从13岁开始迷恋了一个女孩6年。到目前为止，我的青少年时期是我生命中最黑暗的时刻。

但现在，我19岁了，我很高兴地说我活得很开心。我迷恋的那个女孩和我分别在大西洋两岸，我们没有任何联系。但我只希望她幸福，安全，过得愉快，我不知道我是否爱她，但我不应该感到受伤。她从来没有向我许过承诺，也没有必要。她有她的生活，我有我的生活。

自2017年9月以来，我改变了很多。我变得更加自信，我开始去健身房，在那里我的自信心直线上。。我现在感觉很强壮。关于友谊，我收获了很多朋友，因为我决定改变自己。

Scott Murray

The other day I bumped into a good friend of mine while walking the dog. Unfortunately, we don’t see each other as much as we used to, but I suppose that’s a natural side-effect of getting older.

He proposed that we go for a few pints later that day.

I’ve been pretty consumed with my current project, and I try to avoid drinking wherever possible, but I know he’s been going through a hard time as of late (and I love beer), so I didn’t hesitate to take him up on the proposition.

I’m glad I did. He filled me in on the unfortunate sequence of events that had unfolded for him in the last few months.

He’s been a tree surgeon in the same firm since he was 16 years old. A few months ago, after finishing a days work, an elderly lady next door asked him and another lad if they could do a quick job in her garden, and she would pay cash.

前几天我在遛狗的时候碰到了我的一个好朋友。不幸的是，我们不再像以前那样经常见面了，但我认为这是变老的自然副作用。

他提议我们那天晚些时候去喝个几品脱。

我一直在忙我现在的项目，我尽量避免喝酒，但我知道他最近经历了一段艰难的时期(我喜欢啤酒)，所以我毫不犹豫地接受了他的提议。

我很高兴我这么做了。他把过去几个月发生在他身上的一连串不幸的事情告诉了我。

他从16岁起就在同一家公司做树木修补专家。几个月前，在完成了一天的工作后，隔壁的一位老太太问他和另一个小伙子是否可以快速去她的花园里工作，她愿意付现金。

They did the job, took the cash, and later found out this was against the rules of the firm and they were sacked immediately. Luckily, he was able to find a new job sharpish, as a courier. New employees don’t have to pay a deposit upfront to use the delivery van, rather the company withholds the first month’s pay and withhold it until they are finished with the vehicle.

He didn’t love the job by any means, but it was a job. A few weeks into it, my friend had an unfortunate crash on the motorway. Not only did this mean he lost his deposit, but he also had to go to court as the terms of the insurance were unclear.

At one point, it looked like he may have to pay almost ￡10,000 out of his own pocket.

Luckily the court found that the company was liable to pay instead. Safe to say this was all a very stressful experience, especially so when combined with the fact that he didn’t get paid for any of the work he had done (due to the deposit) and he was struggling to keep his relationship together.

他们做了工作，拿走了现金，后来发现这违反了公司的规定，他们立即被解雇。幸运的是，他找到了一份新工作，作为一名快递员。新员工使用送货车是不需要预付定金的，相反，公司会扣留第一个月的工资，直到它们能抵扣汽车的钱为止。

他一点也不喜欢这份工作，但它确实是一份工作。几周后，我的朋友在高速公路上不幸撞车。这不仅意味着他失去了押金，而且由于保险条款不明确，他还不得提出上诉。

在某一时刻，他似乎不得不自掏腰包支付近1万英镑。

幸运的是，法院发现该公司有赔偿责任。可以肯定地说，这是一次非常有压力的经历，尤其是考虑到他所做的任何工作都没有得到报酬(因为押金)，他还在努力维持他的关系。

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He found another job, this time a groundsman at a local racecourse. The money is good, and they have set him up with an apartment on site for a very reasonable price.

In a bid to make up for lost time and make some extra cash, he started to do weekend work with some old friends who were still in the tree surgery business.

One weekend, a three-story ladder came crashing down and the base collided with his nose. The impact concussed him immediately. When he came to, his arms from the elbow downwards were totally numb. Although he has since managed to recover, the days following were filled with excruciating pain.

Throughout this time, I’ve tried to be there for him as much as I could. Sometimes we would go out for drinks, sometimes we would just stay in, sometimes we would talk, and other times we would just play FIFA with a few beers and escape the world for a bit.

他找到了另一份工作，这次是在当地的一个赛马场做场地管理员。工资很不错，他们已经为他在现场以非常合理的价格提供了一套公寓。

为了弥补失去的时间和赚些额外的钱，他开始和一些仍在做树木修补的老朋友于周末一起工作。

一个周末，一架三层楼高的梯子坠落，底座与他的鼻子相撞。冲击力立即使他受到冲击。当他苏醒过来时，他的手臂从肘部向下完全麻木了。尽管他已经成功康复，但接下来的日子里充满了痛苦。

在这段时间里，我尽我所能在他身边。有时我们会出去喝酒，有时我们会呆在家里，有时我们聊天，其他时候，我们会喝点啤酒玩《FIFA》，暂时逃离这个世界。

Usually, he would be working overtime on the weekends, or sometimes he might simply say he needed his own space.

I kept in close contact with him during these months, but this was the first time we really got deep into everything that had been happening.

Things seem to be looking up for him now, he’s faced each challenge head on and I have more respect for him than perhaps he will ever know. He’s a genuinely great guy.

He asked about me. I told him I’m close to finishing a book which I plan to self-publish and a few other side projects through my social media platform.

Bearing in mind that everyone up until this point, including my friends and family, focused on the worst case scenario -

通常，他会在周末加班，有时他可能只是说他需要自己的空间。

在这几个月里，我一直与他保持密切联系，但这是我们第一次真正深入了解发生的一切。

现在他的情况似乎好转了，他直面了每一个挑战，我尊重他的程度比他可能知道的更甚。他是一个真正伟大的人。

他问起了我，我告诉他我快要完成一本书了，我计划自己出版这本书，并通过我的社交媒体平台完成其他一些项目。

请记住，到目前为止，每个人，包括我的朋友和家人，都专注于最坏的情况

‘You’re wasting your time on Instagram’,

‘What if no one buys your book?’,

‘No one will be interested in your brand’,

‘You should really have a backup plan’

Do you know what my friend said?

‘Mate, that’s incredible! I can’t believe you didn’t tell me, I can see it being successful. ’

This man has been through the worst period of his life, and yet, he still encourages a friend to dream.

That’s a real friend.

“你在Instagram上浪费时间”，

“如果没有人买你的书怎么办？”，

“没有人会对你的品牌感兴趣”，

“你真的应该有一个后备计划”

你知道我朋友说了什么吗？

“伙计，这太不可思议了！我不敢相信你没有告诉我，可以预见它会成功。“

这个人经历了他一生中最糟糕的时期，但他仍然鼓励朋友还踹梦想。

这才是真正的朋友。