无论你的孩子做出任何职业选择，你都会支持吗？_风闻

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Edward Patrick Akinyemi

Yes, but one condition only. Let’s say my daughter wants to be a comedian, fine, but then she has to do absolutely fucking everything she can to make it work.

I don’t want any of this “I’m really passionate about comedy” and then see you scrolling on Facebook for two hours per day. Passionate about comedy? Then read every book there is about it, watch documentaries about how the Jerry Seinfelds or Dave Chappelle’s rose to the fame they are at today, follow blogs of the best comedians, reach out to comedians for advice, take online courses on improving your comedy-related skills, and so on.

I constantly hear teenagers throw around this term “passion” as if it’s a free lunch.Passionate about an unorthodox career choice? Well then you better work twice or three times as hard to make it work because these career paths are unorthodox precisely because they are much more difficult to pull off.

If I see my child do everything, and I mean everything, she possibly can to make her career choice happen, then hell yeah I’ll support her. But if I see this half-assed shit of paying lip service to this ‘passion’ but not put in the hard hours to acquire the skills needed for it and beyond, then absolutely not.

是的，但只有一个条件。假设我女儿想成为一名喜剧演员，好吧，但她必须尽她所能来有所成就。

我不想看到你每天在脸书上滚动两个小时“我真的很喜欢喜剧”（的话题）。喜欢喜剧吗？然后阅读每一本关于它的书，观看关于杰瑞·宋飞或大卫·查普尔如何成名的纪录片，关注最佳喜剧演员的博客，向喜剧演员寻求建议，参加在线课程，提高你的喜剧相关技能，等等。

我经常听到青少年把“激情”这个词当作免费午餐。对非正统职业选择充满激情？那么你最好加倍努力工作。因为这些职业道路之所以是非正统的，正是因为它们更难实现。

如果我看到我的孩子做了一切，我的意思是一切，并可能依此做出她的职业选择，那么我会支持她。但是，如果我看到这种半途而废的狗屎，对这种“激情”只是口头上说说而已，却没有花上艰苦的时间去获得它所需要的技能，那绝对不行。

Dan Bradbury

No.

不是的。

I don’t have kids. So let’s talk about my nieces and nephews. In life, balance is everything. Having a beer is good, drinking twenty a day is bad. Nothing wrong with getting a bit of plastic surgery to fix something you really hate about yourself. Having hundreds of surgeries to make yourself look like a Ken doll is way overboard. Life doesn’t give us simple, black and white answers. The truth resists simplicity.

我没有孩子。让我们谈谈我的侄女和侄子。在生活中，平衡就是一切。喝啤酒好，每天喝二十杯却不好。做点整形手术来修复你自己讨厌的地方没什么错。为了让自己看起来像个肯娃娃，做了数百次手术这实在是太过分了。生活不会给我们简单的黑白（标准）答案。真理从不简单。

Nobody should raise their child with the lesson, “Do anything you want. Be happy.” That was the mantra of American parents from about 1950 onward. It was stupid and ultimately destructive. Parenting, as I’m told by parents, is hard, complex and endlessly agonizing. I get it. No parent wants to tell their kid, “When you grow up, life will be very hard for you.” But parents really should do that.

任何人都不应该以“做你想做的任何事。快乐就好”的教育（理念）来抚养他们的孩子。这是1950年以后美国父母的口头禅。这是愚蠢的，最终具有破坏性。正如父母告诉我的那样，为人父母是艰难、复杂，会有无尽的痛苦。我懂了。没有父母想告诉他们的孩子，“当你长大后，生活会很艰难。”但父母真的应该这样做。

There was a rare, RARE historic blip in world (and American) history where a kid could grow up to do/be nearly anything. That blip is gone. Parents really should tell their kids this, “You don’t have to pick a soul-sapping, misery-inducing career. But you must look at the world, assess the market and choose a decent career from those that are available that will give you a good salary, reasonable marketability when you lose your job (and you will — multiple times) and give you some reasonable joy. Wealth doesn’t buy happiness, but a decent income helps you create an environment for you and your family in which happiness can flourish. Without that, you will hate your life.”

在世界（和美国）历史上有一个罕见的历史性转折点，即认为一个孩子长大后几乎可以做任何事情。那个高光时刻消失了。父母真的应该告诉他们的孩子，“你不必选择一个让人心碎、痛苦的职业。但你必须放眼世界，评估市场，从现有的职业中选择一个体面的职业，当你失去工作时，这将给你带来高薪、合理的市场竞争力（而且你会——多次证明这是对的）给你一些不错的快乐。财富买不到幸福，但体面的收入可以帮助你为自己和家人创造一个幸福的环境。没有这些，你会憎恨你的生活。”

I wish parents today would do that. I think my generation has started down that path. But it hasn’t happened quickly enough. With all of my nieces and nephews, I push them VERY HARD to identify as quickly as possible if they’re going to go on the college path. If not, I tell them to be plumbers.

我希望今天的父母会这样做。我想我们这一代人已经开始走这条路了。但速度还不够快。对于我所有的侄女和侄子，如果他们要上大学，我会尽力让他们确定自己想做什么。如果不能，我就告诉他们去做个水管工。

Jon Davis

No.

不会的。

There are some choices a kid can make that seem good at the time, fun or fulfilling, but will ruin their lives forever.

一个孩子可以做出一些选择，这些选择在当时看起来很好，很有趣或者很有成就感，但会永远毁掉他们的生活。

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No. Kids make bad choices. The parents’ job is to guide them away from that. That is their one job. You aren’t a friend or a cheerleader. You’re a parent and you guide and direct them, and if need be, drag them kicking and screaming from a future that they can’t yet see, because supporting them doesn’t mean they have to like you.

不，孩子们会做出错误的选择。父母的工作是引导他们远离这些。这是他们唯一的工作。你不是朋友，也不是拉拉队队长。你是父母，你需要引导和指导他们。如果需要的话，把他们从他们还看不到的未来拉出来，因为支持他们并不意味着他们必须喜欢你。

Ramya Annadurai

Definitely. I will be there to support him. My son wished to be a truck driver, actor, athlete, traveler and police man. Currently, he wishes to be a defense personnel. He is interested in running. Recently, he won Championship Medal in Inter-District Level Karate Meet held in my hometown. He loves cricket. He is into spin bowling. He operates my laptop as a pro. He may be into software development. Don’t know about the future. I told him clearly that “Dear be the one whom you wished and loved to be. I will be there to support you”. I want him to be happy with his life and career.

肯定的。我会支持他的。我儿子曾经希望成为卡车司机、演员、运动员、旅行者和警察。目前，他希望成为一名国防人员。他对跑步感兴趣。最近，他在家乡举行的地区级空手道比赛中获得冠军奖牌。他喜欢板球。他喜欢旋转保龄球。他像专家一样操作我的笔记本电脑。他可能对软件开发感兴趣。不清楚未来走向。但我清楚地告诉他，“亲爱的，做你希望和想要成为的人，我会支持你。”。我希望他对自己的生活和事业感到满意。