在别人给我提供建议后我该说些什么好呢？_风闻

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Robin Thomas, counselor cum psychotherapist

It is better to listen than to merely hear out someone ,you never know when a bolt of lightening in the form of realisation could change and transform your life as well as others ,or what inspiration may fill your spirit .Look at what people say as a suggestion ,not advice ,sermon , or an order .Don,t argue,discuss,debate ,or reject what someone says ,just listen ,nod your head ,put it away for future ref .You know whenever there is a talk ,seminar ,or workshop ,we light a lamp ,which has a wick,and oil filled in .The lamp is lit and just stands in a corner and burns out .But there is great meaning in this lighting ,which is from vedic times .The wick represents ego,the flame represents arrogance ,and the oil represents ignorance. So when the wick ,ego burns out and becomes black ,the flame arrogance goes off ,but the important thing is the ignorance ,oil which feeds the ego is empty.And once ignorance is gone ,you wake up to the reality ,the truth,humble down and listen to the talk ,with renewed inspiration ,. The ego and arrogance are big obstacles in our life ,they perpetuate our ignorance ,and delusion that we know it all . Listen ,ignore what is not relevant,but gratefully take in what makes a difference . Whether it comes from a roadside vendors ,a kid,autodriver,gurus and speakers ,CEOs ,big guys small guys all guys ,men and women ,listen ,you never know what may evolve from a few words ,and how you will emerge .

听明白别人说的意思是很有必要的，你永远不知道什么时候会有个主意能改变你和其他人的生活，也不知道灵感什么时候出现。把人们说的看作是一种建议，而不是说教或命令。不要争论、讨论、辩论，或者拒绝别人说的话，只要听，点头，把它记起来就好，以备将来参考。你知道的，无论什么时候的演讲或研讨会，就如同我们都会点亮一盏灯，灯上有灯芯，里面装满了油。灯亮了，就可以照亮一个角落。这种照明有着非常重要的意义，它来自吠陀时代，灯芯代表自我，火焰代表傲慢，油代表无知。所以当小我的灯芯烧坏变黑时，傲慢的火焰就会熄灭，但重要的是无知，滋养自我的油是空的。还有一旦无知消失了，你就会在现实中醒悟过来从而明白真相，一旦谦卑点，主意聆听，就能获得新的灵感。自大和傲慢是我们生活中的最大障碍，它们使我们的无知和自以为是的错觉长期存在。因此要忽略那些无关紧要的事情，带感激的心态地接受那些不同的声音。至于这些声音是否来自路边的小贩，小孩，汽车司机还是大师级演讲者，CEO，大人物，小人物等所有的男人和女人都不重要，因为你永远不知道从他们说的话中可以得到什么，以及你将如何凭此脱颖而出。

Khawaja Saud Masud, In the school of life, I share from personal experience

To yourself say “I must help others with thoughtful and sound advice one day” so you pay it forward. Also you would need to build a generous and growth mindset to be able to give non generic and well-targeted guidance.

自我暗示:“总有一天，我要用深思熟虑和合理的建议来帮助别人”，这样能不断强化信念。此外，你还需要建立一种慷慨和积极上进的心态，以便能够给予不一般的、有针对性的指导。

To the advisor other than thank you, always share how their advice helped you directly and indirectly. Follow up and feedback post someone’s help shows how much you really valued their time and opinion. Sometimes it’s just as powerful as a genuine thank you.

对于导师，除了说“谢谢你”，还要经常直接或间接地要他们分享对你有帮助的建议。及时给别人的帮助送去反馈信息表明你是多么重视他们的时间和意见。有时候这比一句真诚的谢谢更好。

If just hearing the advice did some good for you well before it’s application, ask your advisor if you may share this advice with others and give your reference. This also shows your gratitude and the impact their advice has had on you. You never know you may inspire the advisor to do further good in the world based on your kind and timely feedback.

如果在仅仅听到这些建议时就觉得对你有帮助的话，问问你的导师你是否可以和其他人分享这些建议并给出你的参考意见。这也表达了你的感激之情以及他们的建议对你的影响。你永远不会知道，你的善意和及时的反馈可能会激励导师在这个世界上做更多的好事。