为什么漂亮的女人会嫁给丑男人？_风闻

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Carly Marie, lived in Tennessee住在田纳西州

To me it’s the easiest to answer. My firm belief and what I’ve told my husband a million times.

Society. How we are raised, what we are taught.

Men are raised/ tricked into they need to chase “hot”, they need to get as many women as possible. Their cool if they get the girls. So they learn no matter what they look like to seek beautiful women.

对我来说这是最容易回答的。我的信念就是这样，并且我和我的丈夫说了无数次。

社会使我们成长，使我们受到教育。

男人一直被灌输他们需要追逐“性感”的思想，他们需要得到尽可能多的女人。如果他们得到女孩，会显得他们很酷。所以他们学会了无论自己长相如何都要追求美丽的女人。 0

Women are taught very young and expected, to wait for marriage for sexual intercourse, to get to know someone, to fall in love. Are they nice? Are they going to be protective? We literally watch movies & read books that say absolutely nothing about looks. It’s all about finding someone, settling with them and being provided for/protected/safe.

When a man brings a woman around his friends most likely the first thing thought/said when she walks away, is damn your girls hot/ well your wife is beautiful, or simply nothing at all if she isn’t a looker.

When a women brings a potential mate around her circle, the first thing asked is usually not physical attraction related. What does he do for a living? He seems very nice. He is very polite. Great personality. We don’t immediately jump to is he hot or not. But that’s the way men are trained, not women. Some women are even trained young to look at wealth first.

女人在很小的时候就被教导，要等到婚后再发生性关系，结识某人，坠入爱河。他们好吗？他们会保护自己吗？我们看过的电影和书都告诉我们外表不重要。所有的一切都是为了找到一个人，和他们一起安顿下来，然后被他们所保护。

一个男人把一个女人带去见他的朋友，当她走开的时候，他的朋友最可能的第一想法或者说的第一件事是：该死的，你的女朋友很性感，或者你的妻子很漂亮。如果她不漂亮，他们就什么也不说。

以上男人的行事方式，而女人则不同：当一个女人把一个潜在的伴侣带到她的圈子里时，她的朋友首先要问的通常与外表吸引力无关。他做什么工作？他看起来很好；他很有礼貌；性格很好；我们不会马上提及他是不是很性感。有些女性甚至在年轻时就被灌输了首先要考虑财富状况的思想。 0

Most people end up with average partners attractive or not. But I’d say the reason an attractive women will marry a ugly man (physical attraction wise) would be because that ugly man had a lot going for him, and that is what tends to get women. And he was confident with himself enough to chase her even if she was out of his league.

My husband said he just lucked up with me. He says he has no game and he got lucky getting a pretty woman. He is handsome though. His personality is rough around the edges. When we were younger he probly thought more highly of his “handsome”, he used to tell me to go away in middle school(we were best friends though), and I’d leave him alone for a week and be right back being a pain in his ass. When he actually wanted me I looked a mess, little extra weight, two kids. Once we started talking he boosted my confidence made me feel good which in turned pushed me to be more aware of myself and get back to my beauty queen ways.

Maybe pretty women marry ugly guys because those guys appreciate us at any value, not just looks in the first place. While the handsome guys in high school are busy chasing every skirt, average or ugly are working on that one. We like a man with single focus

大多数人最终都会选择普通的伴侣，他们不那么具有吸引力。但我想说的是，一个有魅力的女人会嫁给一个外貌丑陋的男人，是因为那个丑陋的男人能够对她有利，而这正是吸引女人的原因。他有足够的信心去追到她，即使她跟他不是一个级别的。

我丈夫说他和我在一起很幸运。他说他没有什么长处，幸运的是他得到了一个漂亮的女人。不过他很帅。他的个性很粗鲁。当我们年轻的时候，他肯定更看重他的“英俊”，在中学的时候他曾经让我滚开（虽然我们是最好的朋友），然后我晾了他一个星期，但又马上回来做他的跟屁虫。当他真的想追求我的时候，我看起来很糟，有点超重，还有两个孩子。我们经过交谈，他增强了我的自信心，让我感觉好了很多，这反过来又促使我更加了解自己，回到我的选美皇后的道路上来。

也许美女嫁给丑男人是因为他们欣赏我们的价值，而不仅仅是外表。高中的帅哥们忙着追逐每一个漂亮女生，同时普通人和丑小伙也是如此。我们喜欢一个专一的男人。

Shintia Zaman Riva, Biological female生物女

What is your definition of ugly? Ugly and pretty are very very subjective and has different value based on culture and geography. I see some extremely handsome man being married to women that doesn’t seem beautiful to me, but that’s just my view not the men those women are married to. In the end, people won’t share the same definition of beauty.

Some women are looking for power and money in the marriage instead of physical attraction and you would see such type of marriage in high socio-economic status. Unfortunately, these type of marriages are least likely to work out. Whatever people’s definition of beauty is, in the end if a person isn’t physically and sexually attracted to their spouse then those marriages won’t last long. You might find many examples of beautiful women married to obxtively ugly man, but the real question is if they find each other beautiful, if not then those marriages won’t last long regardless what other qualities the men might have.

As for bullying, any men and women who bully others are deeply insecure, and they hurt others cause they themselves are hurting inside. I also don’t think beautiful women bully ugly women. Some do and those women also bully ugly men.

你对丑的定义是什么？丑和美是非常主观的，并且根据文化和地理的不同具有不同的衡量标准。我看到一些非常英俊的男人娶了在我看来并不漂亮的女人，但这只是我的看法，而不是那些女人所嫁的男人的看法。毕竟，人们对美的定义是不一样的。

有些女人在婚姻中追求的是权力和金钱，而不是肉体上的吸引力，在社会经济地位很高的情况下，你会看到这种类型的婚姻。不幸的是，这种类型的婚姻不太可能成功。不管人们对美的定义是什么，最终，如果一个人在身体上和性方面都没有被他的配偶所吸引，那么这种婚姻不会持续很久。你可能会发现很多美女嫁给客观上丑陋的男人的例子，但真正的问题是，是否她们都能认同彼此，如果不是，那么不管男人还有什么其他品质，这些婚姻都不会长久。

至于欺凌，任何会欺负他人的男人和女人都是很不安全的，他们伤害别人的同时也伤害了他们自己。我也不认为美女会欺负丑女。只是有些人会这么做，那些女人同样也会欺负丑陋的男人。