有一对爱你的父母是什么感觉？_风闻

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What’s it like having loving parents?

有一对爱你的父母是什么感觉？ 0

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oiolaire

Especially my mom told and still tells me that she loves me nearly every time we see each other.

特别是我妈妈，几乎我们每次见面，都要告诉我，她爱我。 0

They weren’’t perfect though but they were able to apologise when they realised they deeply hurt me. They always explained their parenting choices and I never once in my life heard the famous “my house, my rules”.

虽然他们并不完美，但当他们意识到他们深深地伤害了我时，他们能够道歉。他们总是解释他们为人父母的选择，我这辈子从来没有听说过那句著名的“我的房子，我说了算”。 0

Give your parents a big hug today. It’s not easy being normal.

给你的父母一个大大的拥抱。做一个正常人并不容易。 0

IdkTbhSmh

Why do I keep scrolling. This whole thread is just making me so sad

为什么我一直在不停的翻阅评论，这个帖子让我很难过 0

tea24601

My dad would always say, “if you fail your exam, I’’ll make you croissants.” I’’m super type A and would stress out a LOT about tests in highschool. But I always knew that no matter what I did in life, my dad would do nothing but love me.

我爸爸总是说，“如果你考试不及格，我就给你做羊角面包。” 我是A性格人，在高中的时候会因为考试而压力很大。但是我知道无论我在生活中做了什么，我的父亲都会爱我。 0

LGBecca 

So strange how different we all are. I don’’t think my dad ever knew when I took an exam, ever..

真奇怪，我们截然不同。我认为我爸爸从来不知道我有没有参加考试。 0

TinkerCube

One time I remember getting an 87% on a test, and because of it and my dad got mad didn’’t talk to me for the rest of the day. I already put a lot of pressure on myself to do well. I graduated with a 98% average.

我记得有一次我考试得了87分，因为这个，我爸爸生气了，一整天都不跟我说话。我已经给自己施加了很大的压力。最终，我以平均98% 的成绩毕业。 0

warmcomfyhoodie

That sounds so amazing. Imagining that situation, all the stress went away for a moment. Imagine you don’t do as good, fail the test even, and you get croissants cuz at least your dad knew you tried.

听起来太棒了。想象一下，所有的压力都会消失了一会儿。想象一下就算你做得不好，甚至考试不及格，你还有牛角面包吃，因为至少你爸爸知道你试过了。 0

That’s amazing. That support seems like it feels so good.

太神奇了，这种支持的感觉太棒了。 0

how-sad-for-you 

I’m crying reading at this comment. That must be fucking amazing to not have that added stress from parental pressure.

看到这个评论，我都哭了。没有来自父母的额外压力，肯定会很爽。 0

thrivingandstriving 

you just always feel 100% safe and that no matter what happens EVERYTHING will be okay.. it makes life way better.. you don’’t have to seek companionship outside of your family as much because you already got that “loved” feeling from your family.. basically you rarely feel alone when you have loving parents/family.

你总是会觉得100% 安全，不管发生什么，一切都会好起来的。优秀的父母会让生活变得更美好。你不需要在家人之外寻求陪伴，因为你已经从家人那里得到了”爱”的感觉。基本上，当你有爱你的父母和家人时，你很少会感到孤独。 0

Radioactivocalypse 

It’’s only after reading these comments that I’’ve really how much I take for granted from my parents.

只有在读了这些评论之后，我才真正意识到我是多么理所当然地从父母那里得到了这些爱。 0

It’’s difficult to put into words, but you summed it up perfectly

这很难用语言表达，但你总结得很完美 0

But just before I hit 40, I started to put the pieces together. My relationship with my dad was filled with love, safety, and security. He died when I was 19, and I don’’t have a single negative memory of him. He played games with me, he stood up for me, gave me hugs, helped me solve life problems, helped me learn from mistakes, helped me with my homework, took me out to the movies, took me out for ice cream, etc.

但是就在我快到40岁的时候，我开始把所有的事情拼凑起来。我和父亲的关系充满了爱、安全和保障。他在我19岁的时候去世了，我对他没有一点负面的记忆。他和我一起玩游戏，为我挺身而出，给我拥抱，帮我解决生活中的问题，帮我从错误中学习，帮我完成家庭作业，带我去看电影，带我去吃冰淇淋，等等。 0

I’’ve been in therapy for two decades. Now in retirement, my mom runs programs to teach family members how to cope with and love profoundly mentally ill loved ones. Yep, I’’m the crazy one. She’’s 70-something, and I’’m still the scapegoat for every single challenge she’’s faced in the last nearly 45 years.

我接受心理治疗已经20年了。现在已经退休了，我妈妈开办了一些项目，教导家庭成员如何应对和深爱那些患有精神疾病的亲人。没错，我才是疯子。她已经70多岁了，而我仍然是她在过去近45年里面对的每一个挑战的替罪羊。 0

fslashd

It’s safe to take risks, they’ll catch you

尽管去冒险，无后顾之忧，他们会帮助和支持你的 0

Sumit316

“Maa I broke your favorite flask”

“妈，我打碎了你最喜欢的酒瓶” 0

“Oh dear..It is alright. It lasted a long time”

“哦，亲爱的. . 没关系。它放那已经很长时间” 0

“wait..are you not angry? you really liked that flask”

”等等. . 你不生气吗? 你真的很喜欢那个酒瓶” 0

“No. A bit sad but not angry. People make mistakes son. That is how life is. Nothing is perfect and seriously I was thinking of buying a new one and you gave me a great excuse”

“没有。 有点悲伤，但不生气。 人总会犯错的，孩子。 这就是生活。 没有什么是完美的，说真的，我正在考虑买一个新的，你给了我一个很好的借口。” 0

“I love you maa”

“我爱你，妈妈” 0

Mayonegg420 420

This hurt. This is what I’ve been feeling in my 20s. I never felt safe enough to take a risk and still dont.

这很伤人。这就是我20多岁时的感受。 我从来没有感到足够的安全感去冒险，现在仍然没有。 0

iamnotsmart69 

I’m sure no one will really see this, but I’ve taken a lot risks. My dad bailed me out of jail and took me straight to rehab no questions asked. My step mom was there for me. Now I got an amazing job, make awesome money, have a fiancé, bout to move into an incredibly amazing house. We’re going to start a family soon. I wouldn’t be able to do any of this if it wasn’t for awesome parents that love me. I love you dad and J!

我相信没有人会真正意识到这一点，但我冒了很大的风险。我爸爸把我从监狱保释出来，然后毫无疑问地把我送进了戒毒所。我的继母一直在我身边。现在我有了一份很棒的工作，赚了很多钱，有了未婚夫，即将搬进一所非常棒的房子。我们很快就要组建家庭了。如果没有那些爱我的好父母，我是不可能做到这些的。我爱你，爸爸和 j！ 0

heatherwants2play Heatherwants 2 play

I had a loving mom, but a very shitty dad.

我有一个慈爱的妈妈，但是一个非常糟糕的爸爸。 0

My mom supported me through all my school. Would go to different stores to get me supplies for my projects. She’d try to read the same books I had to so she could engage in critical thinking discussions. Attended my sporting events and cheered me on. Would lay in bed with me after I’d have a nightmare and run her fingers through my hair till I fell asleep. Would constantly reassure me that I was capable of pursuing my dreams. She made sure to tell me she loved me every day and give me hugs frequently. She’s an amazing woman and am so grateful I have her.

我妈妈支持我读完了整个学年。会去不同的商店为我的项目买东西。她会试着读我必须读的那些书，这样她就可以参与到批判性思考的讨论中。参加我的体育赛事并为我加油助威。在我做恶梦后，她会和我一起躺在床上，用她的手指拨弄我的头发，直到我睡着。 会不断地向我保证我有能力追求我的梦想。她每天都会告诉我她爱我，并经常给我拥抱，她是个了不起的女人，我很感激我有像她这样的妈妈。 0

Finnur2412

I’m in the same lane. My father is an asshole alcoholic, who luckily is out of my life. But I couldn’t have wished for a better mom. It amazes me, the length she goes to for me and my siblings. I’ve since moved out, and have two kids of my own. And she’s inspiration every day, and makes me want to be the best parent to my kids as I can be!

我也是这样。我父亲是个混蛋酒鬼，我很幸运，他能从我的生活中消失。但是我的妈妈非常好，她为我和我的兄弟姐妹花费的时间长得让我吃惊。后来我搬了出去，有了两个孩子。她每天都激励着我，让我想尽我所能成为孩子们最好的父母！ 0

chirpot 

Sounds like we have the same mom. I love her to pieces and I give her presents every Father’s Day. She and I dealt with some pretty heavy shit from my “dad” who would regularly call her slurs, cheat, and hit her. He would even coach me to call her slurs. She, however, is the strongest woman I’ve ever met and my idol 100%. I owe everything to her.

听起来我们都有同样的妈妈。我非常爱她，每年父亲节我都会送她礼物。我爸爸经常辱骂，背叛，并打她。他甚至教我骂她。然而，她是我见过的最坚强的女人，也是我百分百的偶像。 我欠她太多了。 0

sabbergirl03

this almost made me cry. i‘m so happy for you, stranger with a beautiful mom.

这几乎让我哭了，我真为你高兴，有个漂亮妈妈的陌生人。 0

Raiguard 

So much this. My parents will never stop loving me, no matter what I do. I’’m so grateful to them for that fact, and for the fact that I can be completely open with them about anything I need.

就是这样。无论我做什么，我的父母永远不会停止爱我。我非常感谢他们，感谢他们让我可以完全坦诚地告诉他们我需要的任何事情。 0

They’’re not the greatest counselors or anything, but simply having someone to share my struggles with is probably the best gift they’’ve ever given me, besides life.

他们不是最好的顾问或者其他什么，但是他们确实我想分享我困难的人，这就是他们给我的最好的礼物，除了给了我生命之外。 0

Octopus_420 

Best way I can describe it is just a general feeling of security. Just knowing that they’’re behind you 100%, and even when they’’re mad at you it’’s almost always because they’’re trying to help you in the long run.

我所能描述的最好的方式就是一种普遍的安全感。只要知道他们100% 地支持你，即使他们生你的气，从长远来看，他们在试图帮助你。 0

It’’s not something you really appreciate until you get older and start to notice kids around you that have to deal with some pretty fucked up shit from their parents. 

现在你还不知道父母的良苦用心，直到你长大了，开始注意到你周围的孩子不得不处理一些相当糟糕的事情时。 0

And, the best part is how your relationship changes as you get older. When they slowly start treating you like a fellow adult, and you get to see them as more of a whole person.

而且，最好的部分是你的关系是如何随着你变老而改变的。 当他们慢慢开始把你当成一个成年人，你开始把他们看成一个完整的人。 0

hullo1237

This is real. Didn’t realize how fucked my family was until I got out of college. I’m grateful for my parents of course but after seeing how my boyfriend’s family talk and treat him vs how my sisters and I are treated by our parents it’s like night and day. I slowly started to see it more in everything from my diet to how politics are treated to how mental health stability is treated.

这是真的。直到大学毕业我才意识到我的家庭有多糟糕。我当然很感激我的父母，但是在看到我男朋友的家人如何谈论和对待他，以及我的姐妹和我们的父母如何对待我们之后，两者对待方式天差地别。从我的饮食习惯到政治倾向，再到心理健康如何被对待，我慢慢开始在各个方面看到之间的差别。 0

I know it could’ve been worse. But I know exactly how I’m gonna raise my kids differently now.

我知道情况可能会更糟，但我现在很清楚我该如何以不同的方式抚养我的孩子。 0

Vonnybon 

Having these type of parents is awesome.

有这样的父母真是太棒了。 0

Recently I was video chatting with my mom. My toddler was unpacking her laundry basket and I just gave a little sigh. My mom commented that she is so cute unpacking everything and a bit of a messy room never hurt anyone. Then she went on to say that although this is just a little mess toddlers make a little mess everywhere which adds up to lots of work for me.

最近我和妈妈视频聊天。我的孩子正在打开洗衣篮，我只是轻轻地叹了口气。我妈妈评论说，她是如此可爱的打开所有的东西，虽然把房间搞的一点点的凌乱，但没有伤害任何人。然后她继续说，虽然这只是一个小小的混乱，但也弄得到处都是一团糟，加起来对我来说还是有很多工作要做。 0

It just struck me that she totally gets it. She is not judging me for my messy house but is empathizing with me over the fact that I have to clean it.

我突然明白她的用意。她不是因为我的房子乱七八糟而批评我，而是因为我必须打扫它而同情我。 0

LaeliaCatt

Same. I figured out pretty early that I won the lottery when it came to my parents. I’’ve always felt loved, secure, and supported by them. I know with 100 percent certainty that they want what is best for me and will always have my back. They’’re really just great people all around, and now as an adult, they are like my best friends. I don’’t take it for granted, especially knowing what I know now about other people’’s experiences. The only problem is I dread losing them.

一样。我的父母人就很好，感觉我像中彩票一样幸运。我总能感到他们对我的爱，有安全感，经常得到他们支持。我百分之百确定他们总想给我最好的，并且永远支持我。他们真的是很好的人，现在作为一个成年人，他们就像我最好的朋友。我不认为这是理所当然的，尤其是当我知道其他人的经历的时候。唯一的问题是我害怕失去他们。 0

dontbelievethefife 

Fuck. This made me cry. I really really wish I could experience what you are describing, like just for a week. It sounds absolutely amazing.

操。这让我哭了。我真的很希望我能体验到你所描述的爱，一个星期就行。听起来绝对令人惊讶。 0

Gillbreather 

You are so lucky. Please give your parents extra hugs for me the next time you see them

你真幸运。下次见到你父母时，请替我多拥抱他们一下 0

felicima22 

Damn. Didn’’t realise how good I had it until you put it into these words. I should appreciate my family more. They’’ve always had my back. No matter what.

该死。直到你说出这些话，我才意识到我有多幸福。我应该更感激我的家人。无论何事，他们一直支持我。