从一段无性婚姻中脱身的最好的时机是何时？_风闻

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My partner and I (her: 35F, me: 39M) have been together for 3 years and have an 18 month old daughter who we both love dearly. Unfortunately we have been in a completely sexless relationship since midway through her pregnancy, almost 2 years now.

我和我的伴侣(她: 35F，我: 39M)已经在一起3年了，有一个18个月大的女儿，我们都非常爱她。 不幸的是，自从她怀孕中期以来，我们一直处于一段完全没有性的关系中，到现在差不多两年了。

I’ve tried my best up until this point to be patient and understanding as giving birth, looking after a baby, and breastfeeding can be extremely exhausting. Our daughter is healthy and there weren’t any usual complications.

在此之前，我已经尽了最大的努力来保持耐心和理解，比如生孩子、照顾婴儿和母乳喂养会让人精疲力尽。我们的女儿很健康，没有出现任何常见的并发症。

I feel like l am made to feel guilty whenever I bring up my desire for intimacy. I try to bring it up gently but she always says I’m just being needy and insecure and to stop pressuring her. She says she has no interest in physical intimacy of any kind. It doesn’t help that she has insisted on co-sleeping with our daughter since birth and plans to continue the process until some unspecified future time. So there is literally zero time when we can be in bed together alone. We live far away from family so getting help from them isn’t really an option.

每当我出现想要亲热的念头时，我就会感到内疚。我试着温柔地提起这件事，但她总是说我只是性饥渴，没有安全感，不要再给她压力了。她说她对任何形式的身体接触都不感兴趣。自从我们的女儿出生以来，她就一直坚持让女儿和我们一起睡觉，并且打算一直这样，直到未来某个不确定的时间。所以我们可以独自在床上的时间几乎为零。 我们住得离家很远，所以不可能从家里人那里得到帮助。

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After 2 years of no physical intimacy I’m reaching a breaking point. I feel emotionally neglected and sad all the time but I don’t want to ask her to move out. I love her and my daughter dearly but I can’t keep on like this any longer. I’ve mentioned couples therapy but she isn’t interested and doesn’t see a problem with the situation. She’s even suggested I should sleep with other people but this feels like a trap and would just be a distraction from parenting and time with my daughter. I don’t feel emotionally ready for that option, it feels like giving up.

在两年没有身体上的亲密接触之后，我的忍耐已经到了极限。 我一直觉得自己在情感上被忽视了，很难过，但我不想让她搬出去。 我深爱着她和我的女儿，但我不能再这样下去了。 我曾经提到过夫妻治疗，但是她对此并不感兴趣，认为这种情况并不是什么问题。 她甚至建议我应该和其他人睡觉，但是这感觉像是一个陷阱，只会分散我为人父母和影响我和女儿在一起的时间。 我在情感上还没有准备好做这个选择，感觉就像是放弃。

I’m totally frustrated and don’t know what to do!

我现在非常沮丧，不知道该怎么办！